Another Part of Growing Up

~ Best Friends Forever (Only in Hollywood) ~

The holidays have been eye-opening. This Chinese New Year (CNY) has not all been about Red Packets, or rather the money that is within. Through a series of events, I came to accept a bitter part of life - the losing of a good friend.
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This lost is not a physical death but a relational degradation. I look through my mobile phone address list and could not find a single person residing in Singapore, whom I can label as a 'Best Friend'. I've taken away the 'best friend' status of the last best friend that I have (and now had) this CNY. There's no drama, I just find that he does not understand me anymore. This was a very bitter realization on my part because after all, I have known him for a good 14 years and we did go through many joys and sorrows together.
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I had known all along that knowing a person that long will guarantee nothing. People change. That includes me. The idea of Best Friends Forever (BFF) is such a beautiful idea, but at least for me, will remain to be just that - A Beautiful Idea. Change is such a defining constant throughout all of our lives and to say that anyone will remain friends forever is - in my opinion - juvenile, because no one can say what's going to happen tomorrow.
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So What Then FD?
[ I will treasure the friendships that I had, the ones I have and those that will remain for a time, during which, I hope that our friendship will draw out the best in us. I will be hopeful that each one has meaning, that each one will contribute immeasurably to that time in our lives. I will be thankful, but when the time comes, I will let them go to touch the lives of others. ]
- Mr Holiday